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I was just introduced to Monty's work through one of Joe Camp's books.  I've been working with a 13 yr old TB for about 4 months now with limited success.  I know that at this point he doesn't trust me or respect me even though I'm doing activities with him he seems to enjoy , like walking, leading him to fresh grass that he doesn't get in his pasture, among other things.  I know part of the problem is he is a fairly advanced horse and I'm a real beginner so he gets pretty frustrated with me when I've ridden him.  I'm looking forward to using the join up to extablish a better connection with him and restart the relationship.  I do have a question for a more experienced student.  Monty says to do a join up with your horse no more than 4-6 times.  Should that be done 4-6 days in a row or skip a day or two between join ups? 

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Chirs orr
Seattle, WA
JoHewittVINTA
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Hi Chris & welcome to the Uni. In any relationship there needs to be flexibility - no 2 are identical, doesn't matter whether it's human with human or human with dog or horse or deer. Each one is an individual with different interests, needs, fears & experiences. Monty sets out a roadmap of method but it's our responsibility to fine tune that roadmap to meet the needs of our partners - in this case your horse. Join up is a conversation. If you meet up with a person & just keep having the same conversation over & over pretty soon you'll want to avoid meeting up with them ( boring ). You need to learn to read your horse - coz he's reading you constantly. Watch for signs of relaxation. Learn to control your breathing - we can speed up a horse with nothing more than shallow, swift breaths or slow them down with deep, slow breaths. Study the Uni lessons to improve & perfect your body language. It sounds like a mammoth task I know but simple changes, like not looking him in the eye & stopping your arms swinging when you approach him, communicate to him your kindly intentions. Most of all be calm & consistent. If you ask him to do something & he ignores your signals - STOP. Becoming evermore pressuring will simply end in a fight you cannot win - he's too big, too heavy, too strong & too fast. Rethink your signals, set up a situation to make it easy for him to choose the behaviour you want & more difficult, more work, to do otherwise. Then be very generous with praise when he gets it right. Yes, you are on a very long journey but I can vouch that it will bring you so much joy & happiness so it's well worth the effort. Now, to answer your specific question: it probably doesn't matter if you do consecutive days or take a day off - try both & let your horse tell you. Cheers, Jo.
conniemacklill
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Hi C

I have to ask, do you own a Dully halter?  If not I strongly suggest you buy one. It is one of the best training tools ever made and not that expensive. If you do then be sure to go to the Uni and watch all the videos made on how to properly use it.
As Jo mentioned be sure to control your own emotions and very quick to give praise where needed. Let your horse talk to you and pay attention to his eyes, ears and body language, without him knowing you are watching, because he will be watching yours.
Be safe first and have fun 
Connie Mack